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Where is the love? Isn’t that what the wedding industry is all about? Couples, pledging their love and life together. How come this same concept doesn’t hold true for the people who help bring this event to fruition, aka the wedding vendors? If you think the nasty and negative comments you leave on different social media outlets can’t be seen by potential clients, you couldn’t be more wrong. Word of mouth is huge in the wedding industry.
It’s a new year and in the past 7 days I have seen more bickering and bullying by wedding vendors, to and about other vendors, their so-called peers, than ever before. This is part of the reason I left the industry. However, just because I left doesn’t mean I’m not paying attention to what’s happening. I just have a different perspective. I’m no longer the vendor, now I’m the client. What I am seeing is other vendors posting about how disgusted they are that this is even happening. Is it really necessary to be so rude to someone who may be asking for advice on a particular subject? Ridicule does not belong in an industry based on love. There are plenty of opportunities for everyone associated with weddings. If you’re doing well, there really is no reason to tread on the those who are just starting to make a name for themselves. It’s easy to step on toes, until someone steps back.
Bully – n; A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people.
Consider how you would feel coming into any industry without the knowledge of those who have been in it for years. I’m sure some of you were lucky enough to find a mentor. Pay it forward. Instead of stomping on someone’s dream, help make it a reality.
No one likes a bully. Unless you want your good name associated with the term, you might want to consider your words before actually saying them.
On a personal note, Congratulations to the hard working wedding vendors who won the “Couple’s Choice Award”. An award well deserved by most. Some have put down the award, stating it’s meaningless because it’s based on reviews. I’m thinking they’re putting it down because they didn’t receive one. 😉
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Good article!! I do have to say that those “awards” are more a popularity contest than anything and pretty meaningless overall. And, many of us who didn’t have clients willing to write those reviews are, nonetheless, worthy. However, that is no reason to bash someone else who did get one. Too many bullies in this business and WAY TOO MUCH ego! Sad that so many of us had to bail o step back and wait tables to pay the bills because of them.
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Thank you, Wendy. I’m not sure I’d call it a popularity contest. It does reflect the quality of work given by those vendors. Most have asked for their clients to review them, I never felt it necessary but that’s just me. Believe it or not, brides do look for that “Couples choice award” photo on potential vendor sites. As much as I hate WeddingWire and their practices (this of course is a marketing ploy on their part), I still have to give kudos to the vendors who earned the recognition,
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Thanks Dorinda! We all needed that wake up call.
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It’s sad that one even had to be issued but its out of control. The wedding industry takes enough hits from every other corner, this black eye is one not needed.
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